A family court judge recently released advice regarding how couples that divorce can find a way to live together after the legal ending of their marriage. She noted that many partners have found themselves in this unfortunate situation as the economy has prevented them from being able to maintain separate households and expenses.
The first step is to make a household budget. Finances continue to be a major source of contention for American couples. By clearly establishing the household expenses and each party's responsibility for them, former couples can help avoid conflicts. It is also important for former spouses to stop the blame game and not to assume that the former partner has ill intentions when disagreements come up.
As communication is one of the most important aspects of the marriage, it is a critical skill that cohabitating individuals must develop to have a successful living arrangement. The judge recommends that each party should admit fault if he or she has yelled or snapped. The pair should continue to communicate unless they become frustrated with each other. It may be best for the pair to take a break from each other for up to a day to clear their thoughts. The ex-couple can have a do-over of a conversation that took a wrong turn and can work on solutions to the original problem.
Family law attorneys may facilitate communication for couples seeking a divorce. Having a session with an attorney or attorney for divorce mediation can help the couple set up basic rules during the divorce, especially if they both plan to live in the family home during or after the divorce. These steps can help the couple have a smoother transition.
Source: MSNBC, "Chained to your ex? How to live together after a divorce," Judge Michele F. Lawrance, Dec. 23, 2012